Most of you all have heard about the horrific attack at the African Methodist Episcopal church in Charleston.
So I want to dedicate this post to the victims and the family and close friends of the victims.
There's people grieving everywhere, and my hearts definitely go out to them.
What I don't want to do is give the guy that committed this evil crime any attention. Because we all know that's what he wanted.
What I don't want to hear is people pull the excuse of him having a mental illness. Mental illness or not, he needs to take full responsibility of this hate crime. He knew exactly what he was doing.
Don't pull up the nicest picture from his Facebook page to try to prove hes a nice guy. Nice guys don't go into the house of the Lord and shoot innocent people.
This senseless act just proved to us that we are no longer safe, even in time of prayer.
Because I am black, this hits home for me, and because I attend a black church, this hits even closer to home.
This violent act could of happened anywhere.
Of course, nobody wants to pull the race card, and we never want to believe racism is still alive, but you cant help but think about that when a white man targets a group of black people.
Look at how the cops even arrested him vs when they arrest someone black. Would they of put a bullet proof vest on a black guy? Nope.
There are so many unanswered questions at this point its frustrating. And all I wish for is Justice.
OKAY let me stop before I get heated.
To the families:
Although I know you wont read this, I just want you to know that at this very moment our community has become closer and we are behind you. Saying "I'm sorry" a million times to you couldn't change a thing and probably wont even help but just know I am sending all my love your way. I could tell you to forgive the guy that did this to your family member, but truth is....that's probably the hardest thing for you to do right now. What I can encourage you to do, is lift each other up and keep praying.
Lets continue to spread the love guys and keep Charleston in our hearts right now.
xoxoxo,
Alexuss
P.S. I know this post was a little all over the place, this incident just makes my thoughts go wild.
Hey guys!
So I previously mentioned how I wanted to do something different on my blog, including a series called "Life Lessons with Lex"
And as you can probably already tell by the title....I want to talk about dealing with rejection.
Now I have just recently become addicted to the website BuzzFeed (downloaded their app and everything) and they had a video on there about a guy that decided to put himself out there and force himself into being victim of rejection for 100 days. Then they also had a girl do the experiment for 7 days. Heres the link to the video: http://www.buzzfeed.com/shanemadej/is-rejection-good-for-you#.xnvXwEpBv
In the video they show them being put in every possible awkward situation, except for when it comes to relationships! & that's exactly what I want to share with y'all. I feel like everyone can relate to this and has had to deal with it at one point or another, especially people in my generation.
So....Rejection....
If you know me, you know that I never dated in high school and I would have to say its because I was always afraid of what guys thought of me and all together its because I was afraid of being rejected.
But now that I am in college and have been dating for a while now, I think its safe to say that I still hate it but its something that I have definitely had to go through a few times. So here are the top 3 things I have learned about dealing with it.
1. Its not the end of the world when the person your interested suddenly stops answering texts, calls, SnapChats...etc. lol (Yes I had to mention Snapchat helloooo) I mean of course we feel upset at first but just remind yourself: "I was enjoying my life before you entered, and I am still going to enjoy it now that you're gone"
2. Don't EVER force someone to stay interested in you. Save yourself the stress...
3. Stop beating yourself up over someone, if they wanted your attention they would move mountains to get it.
We need to learn how to make ourselves uncomfortable, its the only way we learn how to grow as a person.
Speaking to my females:
Challenge yourself to make the first move sometimes:
Text him first! Just make sure your not doing it all the time because he needs to be able to show interest as well.
Or, If your really feeling confident, when you and your girlfriends are out one night, make it a challenge for each of you to approach a guy and ask for his number. My girls wanted to try this one night, didn't end up happening, but we are for sure going to try again! (Be ready ladies)
Speaking to my males:
Dont be afraid to approach a female no matter how intimidating she looks. I hear this all the time, "I hate approaching a group of pretty girls because they intimidate me." OR "wow you seemed intimidating at first but now you seem really cool." Stop making that an excuse!
In all honesty, I don't think rejection is something a person can get used to but it can definitely get easier when you are learning to cope with it.
In the end, the most a person can tell you is no, which is probably what you don't wanna hear, but when that happens you just gotta keep it moving!
"Do one thing everyday that scares you" -Eleanor Roosevelt
xoxo,
Alexuss
Guess who is back...
I have been getting a lot of requests from people to start blogging again, which I love! People have been asking "Alexuss what happened to your blog?!"
School happened! finals, projects, work, internships, & life in general.
Which I know shouldn't be an excuse because blogging was and still is one of my favorite things.
Blogging allows me to put myself out there and share so much with you.
So I wanna thank my best friends for supporting me through this and of course my beautiful family for always encouraging me (even though I am the biggest pain in the ass sometimes)
Moving forward with my blog....
I have a lot of new ideas and things I wanna do differently on here BUT I am always open to suggestions so help a girl out please!
I was thinking about doing a little segment/series called Life Lessons with Lex. Hashtag it maybe?
I love giving advice to my girlfriends so why not share some of that? Of course it would be a lot more personal part of my blog so prepare yourself.
I might also start talking about more controversial issues and pop culture and share my opinion on things other than makeup and fashion, just to spice things up, you know?
Also, I have been thinking about making a separate Facebook page for my blogs in the near future just so its easier to access them all.
Oh and my new day to publish a new blog is probably going to be Fridays so keep an eye out for them!
Thanks again for supporting me guys, I appreciate it sooooooooooo much.
xoxo,
Alexuss
