Life Lessons with Lex: Dealing with Rejection

Hey guys! 

So I previously mentioned how I wanted to do something different on my blog, including a series called "Life Lessons with Lex" 

And as you can probably already tell by the title....I want to talk about dealing with rejection.

Now I have just recently become addicted to the website BuzzFeed (downloaded their app and everything) and they had a video on there about a guy that decided to put himself out there and force himself into being victim of rejection for 100 days. Then they also had a girl do the experiment for 7 days. Heres the link to the video: http://www.buzzfeed.com/shanemadej/is-rejection-good-for-you#.xnvXwEpBv

In the video they show them being put in every possible awkward situation, except for when it comes to relationships! & that's exactly what I want to share with y'all. I feel like everyone can relate to this and has had to deal with it at one point or another, especially people in my generation. 

So....Rejection....

If you know me, you know that I never dated in high school and I would have to say its because I was always afraid of what guys thought of me and all together its because I was afraid of being rejected. 

But now that I am in college and have been dating for a while now, I think its safe to say that I still hate it but its something that I have definitely had to go through a few times. So here are the top 3 things I have learned about dealing with it.

1. Its not the end of the world when the person your interested suddenly stops answering texts, calls, SnapChats...etc. lol (Yes I had to mention Snapchat helloooo) I mean of course we feel upset at first but just remind yourself: "I was enjoying my life before you entered, and I am still going to enjoy it now that you're gone"
2. Don't EVER force someone to stay interested in you. Save yourself the stress...
3. Stop beating yourself up over someone, if they wanted your attention they would move mountains to get it.

We need to learn how to make ourselves uncomfortable, its the only way we learn how to grow as a person. 

Speaking to my females: 
Challenge yourself to make the first move sometimes:
Text him first! Just make sure your not doing it all the time because he needs to be able to show interest as well.
Or, If your really feeling confident, when you and your girlfriends are out one night, make it a challenge for each of you to approach a guy and ask for his number. My girls wanted to try this one night, didn't end up happening, but we are for sure going to try again! (Be ready ladies) 

Speaking to my males: 
Dont be afraid to approach a female no matter how intimidating she looks. I hear this all the time, "I hate approaching a group of pretty girls because they intimidate me." OR "wow you seemed intimidating at first but now you seem really cool." Stop making that an excuse! 

In all honesty, I don't think rejection is something a person can get used to but it can definitely get easier when you are learning to cope with it. 
In the end, the most a person can tell you is no, which is probably what you don't wanna hear, but when that happens you just gotta keep it moving!

"Do one thing everyday that scares you" -Eleanor Roosevelt 

xoxo,
Alexuss